We have been doing respite on a regular basis for a large sibling group for the past several months. It is now looking like their case will go to TPR soon. We are thinking about asking to be considered as an adoptive placement for them if/when it reaches that point. That would give us a total of nine children at home.....so a lot to consider. It would be a huge challenge, just considering the logistics of managing a household that size, w/o even factoring in the foster care baggage that would come with the children. Nine kids...wow. BUT I love these kids and it feels so natural for them to be here. We have a lot of children in and out of the house for respite care or friends of my bio children. Many of these kids we like and enjoy but we do not feel the same connection to most of these kids that we do with this sibling group. I can easily imagine them as part of our family.
I feel a little overwhelmed at the thought of adding that many children at once. However, when I analyze exactly what makes me feel overwhelmed it is all things that can be worked out, such as the need for a larger vehicle, more bedroom furniture, possibly adding on to our house. Things that are really minor issues when considering the long term. My hesitation is not about the kids only about the practicalities of putting a total of 11 people in this house.
Prayers for wisdom for my husband and I are appreciated! We have a lot to consider and work out. Prayers for these sweet dc are welcomed also. I so want them to have some permanancy whether it is with their birth family, with us, or with another adoptive family. They've been in foster care for years and it is TIME for them to be settled somewhere.
Talk to me about your adoption experiences, especially if you have added a large sibling group to your family.
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I ran across your blog tonight, and don't have sibling adoption experience - but I'm anxious to follow your story as you possibly move forward. (We have adopted foster children, but one at a time, because that's how the opportunities presented themselves.) It sounds like your priorities are right - the kids, rather than the house. The house will change. The family is forever. And the idea that these children might be adopted together is fantastic! Best wishes as you make your decision.
What have you decided? My husband and I adopted a sibling group of 3 from foster care. Good luck to you whatever has happened since your last post!
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