Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Respite
The new agency offers 2 days of paid respite care per month. That is a wonderful service to provide to foster parents! This is something we can do while we wait for a placement of our own. We will be doing respite care this weekend for a sibling group of five. I am both excited and nervous. It will be for three nights. I’ll let you know how it goes. It can’t be any harder than the previous group we did respite for (did I ever blog about them? The group with the major food hoarding issues and the major, major, major behavioral problems? This group *should* be a breeze compared to those children. I hope.).
Switching Agencies
We began our foster care journey last summer. For years we had talked about fostering and/or adopting off and on. It was never the right time. First, we lived in a tiny 2 bedroom house and literally had no room for extra dc. I seriously doubt we could have passed a homestudy inspection just due to the small square footage.
When we moved to our current home, our youngest was a high need 6 week old baby. So we had the space at that point but not the energy. LOL As she got older and less needy we began to discuss fostering again. By this time we also had met a family who are now good friends who had just begun fostering themselves. We looked into beginning the licensing process in the fall of ’06. We were discouraged to find that we (both of us) would have to attend all day classes for three Saturdays in a row. (Plus, we would have to drive 1.5-2 hours one way to go to the classes). There was no way we could leave our youngest for that many hours at a time---not without making her and her caregiver miserable. So we put the idea aside, again.
A few months later R, was content to stay with others for a few hours at a time and we again looked into beginning the licensing. Then we were thrilled to learn that I was expecting. We put fostering on hold again, knowing that pregnancy and the newborn phase would keep me plenty busy without adding the stresses of foster care. Unfortunately, I lost that baby last summer at 15 weeks gestation. We were devastated. It didn’t take long though, for our thoughts to return to fostering. We had the room, our youngest was older, and pregnancy was no longer a factor. We signed up for the classes.
That was in July. Actually I had surgery related to the miscarriage on July first, came home on July second and called the county agency that same day. I threw myself into fulfilling the licensing requirements as a way to keep my mind off my grief.
We were finally licensed at the end of October. At that point we were offered a sib group of 3, which we turned down due to lack of seating for that many children in our vehicles. (It turns out they went back home after only 3 days in foster care anyway.). In December we had a toddler boy placed with us. He was/is adorable and I was so sad to see him leave. He was with us 9 days and then he was placed with a family member. After that we had no more placements! We’re in a small rural county and there simply are not many children in care. That’s good…..I’m glad there aren’t more children in need of care here….but we know there are children somewhere who need us so we switched to a private agency that seems more likely to have a placement for us.
The new agency is a therapeutic agency so we had to do some more training in order to transfer our license. We completed that last weekend. I am so excited about this switch. Every one has been so nice and professional. I’m excited to see how it works out.
So….that’s a summary of our foster care journey thus far.
When we moved to our current home, our youngest was a high need 6 week old baby. So we had the space at that point but not the energy. LOL As she got older and less needy we began to discuss fostering again. By this time we also had met a family who are now good friends who had just begun fostering themselves. We looked into beginning the licensing process in the fall of ’06. We were discouraged to find that we (both of us) would have to attend all day classes for three Saturdays in a row. (Plus, we would have to drive 1.5-2 hours one way to go to the classes). There was no way we could leave our youngest for that many hours at a time---not without making her and her caregiver miserable. So we put the idea aside, again.
A few months later R, was content to stay with others for a few hours at a time and we again looked into beginning the licensing. Then we were thrilled to learn that I was expecting. We put fostering on hold again, knowing that pregnancy and the newborn phase would keep me plenty busy without adding the stresses of foster care. Unfortunately, I lost that baby last summer at 15 weeks gestation. We were devastated. It didn’t take long though, for our thoughts to return to fostering. We had the room, our youngest was older, and pregnancy was no longer a factor. We signed up for the classes.
That was in July. Actually I had surgery related to the miscarriage on July first, came home on July second and called the county agency that same day. I threw myself into fulfilling the licensing requirements as a way to keep my mind off my grief.
We were finally licensed at the end of October. At that point we were offered a sib group of 3, which we turned down due to lack of seating for that many children in our vehicles. (It turns out they went back home after only 3 days in foster care anyway.). In December we had a toddler boy placed with us. He was/is adorable and I was so sad to see him leave. He was with us 9 days and then he was placed with a family member. After that we had no more placements! We’re in a small rural county and there simply are not many children in care. That’s good…..I’m glad there aren’t more children in need of care here….but we know there are children somewhere who need us so we switched to a private agency that seems more likely to have a placement for us.
The new agency is a therapeutic agency so we had to do some more training in order to transfer our license. We completed that last weekend. I am so excited about this switch. Every one has been so nice and professional. I’m excited to see how it works out.
So….that’s a summary of our foster care journey thus far.
Blogging again
Hello Blog Friends!
My poor blog has sat neglected for months. I originally started this blog to record our foster care journey because reading the foster care blogs of others has been very helpful to me. There has been little related to foster care to journal though, so the posts have been few and far between. We have switched to a new agency now and hopefully will be getting placements on a more regular basis.
I also struggled because I wanted to keep this blog very anonymous, to protect the identity of any foster children placed with us. However, I didn’t like how impersonal that made the blog feel so I didn’t enjoy posting. I’ve decided to relax a bit on the privacy issue with my own family. Hopefully I can find the right balance between privacy & security VS. sharing enough details to make the blog personal and interesting. If/when we have foster children in our home I will reevaluate and will break off the more personal posts into a private blog if needed.
A friend has challenged me to blog daily through the month of May. I will try my best to keep up with that so keep checking for new posts!
My poor blog has sat neglected for months. I originally started this blog to record our foster care journey because reading the foster care blogs of others has been very helpful to me. There has been little related to foster care to journal though, so the posts have been few and far between. We have switched to a new agency now and hopefully will be getting placements on a more regular basis.
I also struggled because I wanted to keep this blog very anonymous, to protect the identity of any foster children placed with us. However, I didn’t like how impersonal that made the blog feel so I didn’t enjoy posting. I’ve decided to relax a bit on the privacy issue with my own family. Hopefully I can find the right balance between privacy & security VS. sharing enough details to make the blog personal and interesting. If/when we have foster children in our home I will reevaluate and will break off the more personal posts into a private blog if needed.
A friend has challenged me to blog daily through the month of May. I will try my best to keep up with that so keep checking for new posts!
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